I'm not sure if anyone out there has had this said to them (most likely someone who has known you or knows of you for a long time) that you look like your mom if you're a girl or your dad if you are a guy (unless you don't know who your biological parents are then this may or may not apply to you).
When I was little I didn't mind it (more or less was okay with it) being told how much I looked like my mom. Before I delve into this my background consists of Croatian and Polish on my dad's side while I have Spanish and Filipino on my mom's side. I'm quite the interesting mix. Now that I'm older I'm slightly annoyed by being told that I look like my mom. Why is it that I'm not told that I look like my dad (there was one point I was but it's a totally different story)? Is it because of my gender?
In terms of identity I see myself as Canadian as I was born and raised here. Secondly with being part Asian I don't really see myself neither as "white" nor Asian. I guess I could see myself as Eurasian in the sense that I'm a mix of European and Asian, but that's not the point I'm trying to make. There was a point in time I'd think that I would look like my dad because I do share the same hands and feet and hairline whereas I took my mom's eyes, nose, and recessive brown hair gene. Sure I have traits from my parents but just because I'm biologically their kid does not mean I have to take on the fact that I look like one of them. I personally see myself as an individual. My image is my own: it does not reflect either my mother or my father so why do I need to be told that I look like mom?
Looks aren't the only thing but there's behaviour as well. That I do notice as I have picked up something from both of them whether they be good habits or bad. I'm not sure if my extended family thinks that I share a lot of things with my parents but here's how I differ:
Both of my parents are Catholics and naturally I was raised in that religion. I was about 14 when my religion textbook (I kid you not) introduced the concepts of atheism, agnosticism and individualism. I'm pretty sure the book is explaining why one should embrace religion instead of these ideas but that's not the point I'm trying to make (and my fallout with religion is a whole different story). I don't think my parents have told any of their friends about my beliefs (of if they did they probably say something else) but for those who don't know probably assume I share the same religious beliefs and values as they do (this happens to come from an e-mail from a relative who believes that I have grown up to a God-fearing woman). A habit I picked up from my dad is his quietness and keep-to-oneself-ness. From my mom it's probably her talkativeness. How does that work out? See Newton's first law or if I feel that it's too eerily quiet I'll try to start up a conversation.
So anyways anyone who reads this: do you find that because of your gender you're appearance tends to look a lot like your mom (girls) or your dad (guys)? Or is it the opposite for you?
Most people say I look like my dad... which I hate because I hated my dad when he was still alive. Some people say I look like my mom, which I like because I like her and it also means that I don't look like my dad to them. I get mixed opinions.
ReplyDeleteI am pure Asian (pure Filipino! Some people mistake me for a Korean, though) so I don't have any troubles figuring out which kinda race I look like.
I also got my religious views from my dad, so when he died, all of my religious beliefs kinda faded away. I'm now... I don't know. I don't do anything related to Catholics, but I'm cool like this. I still talk to God, though, I just don't do it in churches.
Most girls get their talkative-ness from their moms. I got my talkative-ness from my mom, which is uncool because I'm a guy. Whatever, I think it's also a plus for a guy if he wants to be friends with girls easily!
Sorry for the long comment. LOL. I hope you don't delete this. =]
I appreciate comments as long as it's not spam (i.e. chains saying you'll die after reading something if you don't send it.)
ReplyDeleteI'm actually part Filipino (that's where the Asian side comes from) yet my mom has a Spanish great-grandmother so my Asian is slightly watered down.
I'm not too fond of the weekly church services. I mean whether God exists or not and saying that the deity with the male attribute is omnipresent how is going to services any different (unless you want to see people). I probably could say I'm on the border between agnosticism and deism as I'm not too sure of the existence of any deity(-ies) but if detiy(-ies) do exist I would apply deism to my beliefs. Other than that there are some issues that I don't really agree with the Catholic church on (like abortion, marriage, etc.) Though I'm not that religious I don't discriminate the beliefs of others ("they're your beliefs, not mine, I may not agree with them but that doesn't give me the right to tell you they're wrong" kind of thing).
One of the classes I take at university is an intro to language acquisition. Apparently when kids start to talk girls talk a lot more than guys.
hmm . . . I wonder if this comment is big enough for a blog post . . .